At LBC we’ve just starting an Sunday evening sermon series on relationships entitled “DTR-2″. Tonight was the second session entitled “Waiting for Magic”.
Now I have to confess that for so many years I was very disillusioned about what dating relationships should be like and why they were going to be so exciting. I was informed much more by movies than by anything else. I was a firm hopeful in the movie magic with that perfect light, perfect music, perfect guy – all adding up to that PERFECT moment when you fall in love. It took a couple years of mishaps and heartache for me to start navigating my way out of the land of “Happily Ever After” to think about how the Lord intended relationships to be and how I should conduct myself accordingly. Even more than that though, was reigning in all my romantic ideas and fancies and laying down my expectations. After all the questions I’ve considered and the conversations I’ve had in regards to the importance of chemistry in a relationship, my favorite quote from tonight was:
” If you are preparing for marriage, are you going to look for magic or look to God for truth?”
It doesn’t seem to answer those questions directly, but simply stated it really reminded me how silly my human perspective is when left to our own theories and way of doing things when we have the truth of God to help guide us through the maze of relationships, and life, in general. This thought is punctuated with the seriousness of sin when we are led by those foolish ways.
“The Bible doesn’t seem to be concerned with the difficulty of finding a wife. Rather it is full of exhortations to find the right woman to be a wife. We shouldn’t want to be someone’s wife. We should want to be women of noble character who are a blessing and influence for good in any relationship.”
- Carolyn McCulley
